One of my wedding clients just canceled their wedding that is only 3 weeks away.Â At first, this seems pretty bad — think of all the guests, reservations, bookings, and money that has been spent planning this wedding — worse yet, what will people think of them!
It turns out that during the planning of this wedding they realized that they had to deal with some issues — some really tough issues (and not just details of planning the wedding).Â They could have just glossed over those issues and carried on with the wedding (putting on a faÃ§ade for all of their friends and family), but what would have happened 2 months after the wedding?Â Would these issues resurface in a bigger and uglier form?Â Would they end up in divorce?Â Worse yet, what would have happened if they glossed over those issues until after they had children?
This couple made a very tough decision, and it is the right decision.Â They needed more time to work things out before they make a life-long commitment to each other and to God. They were able to face up to the fact that they needed more time, and I applaud them for that.Â If more people had the courage to do what they did, we would see a much lower divorce rate and much stronger families.
This couple is still dating, and while they have no plans of marriage at this time, I would wager that if the time comes, they will be more ready than the average couple and I hope to be a part of that very special day.
(photograph by lgbsneak)